Family, Home & Garden, Lessons in Loss

Having a clear out

I am genetically not predisposed to letting go of stuff. I am biologically prone to keeping hold of things. Maybe it's nurture too. My mum and her mum both have houses full of many many bits and bobs. For my grandma, that's fair enough; she's been on her own since the mid-80s. However, my dad… Continue reading Having a clear out

Children, Lessons in Loss, Miscarriage, Self-care

Fog of Grief

Yesterday (31 January 2023) marked four years since baby boy3 made an unexpected and far too early exit from my body. I'm not someone who dwells or wallows in the grief I feel for his loss. I acknowledge it, I'm honest about it with myself and with others. I don't shy away from talking about… Continue reading Fog of Grief

Children, Family, Miscarriage

Another year passed

Here we are again, June 17th. This was the date in 2019 that boy3 was scheduled to be born by caesarean section. So even though it's four and a half months after his actual birthday, today remains an unforgettable date for us. We've just made it through another holiday where we seemed to be surrounded… Continue reading Another year passed

Caption "Lessons in Loss" above clouds low in the sky at sunset
Lessons in Loss

Lessons in Loss 16: Promise of a New Day

Today's post is from Molly at Transatlantic Notes. Molly and I have been following each other for a while now. We have a real common sense of what's right and a shared desire to live a better life of equality and fairness. Molly's blog discusses issues to do with mental health, equality, politics and food,… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 16: Promise of a New Day

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There’s only one first time

The piece was written for and first published at T.B.C, as part of a series of first time descriptions. The world around us freezes every winter, the ground hardens and is inhospitable for months. Nature is harsh, the winds blow and rain, hail and snow swamp the ground. The earth endures the pain and hardship… Continue reading There’s only one first time

cherry blossom, miscarriage, memorial tree
Children, Health, Miscarriage

Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020

It's Baby Loss Awareness Week. On Thursday 15th October 2020, it's a special day to remember our babies we didn't get to keep and raise awareness. I'll either be taking the day off social media or muting some topics. It's vitally important that we raise awareness of baby and infant loss and miscarriage. Families that… Continue reading Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020

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Children, Fitness, Miscarriage, Travel, Work

Here comes 2020

2019 has been a rollercoaster. So we're not making big plans for 2020. Its been a big year, we started off expecting a surprise third baby - buying maternity clothes in the sales and planning a new car big enough for three seats. By the end of January that was all over, disastrous and heartbreaking.… Continue reading Here comes 2020