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I am genetically not predisposed to letting go of stuff. I am biologically prone to keeping hold of things. Maybe it's nurture too. My mum and her mum both have houses full of many many bits and bobs. For my grandma, that's fair enough; she's been on her own since the mid-80s. However, my dad… Continue reading Having a clear out
Yesterday (31 January 2023) marked four years since baby boy3 made an unexpected and far too early exit from my body. I'm not someone who dwells or wallows in the grief I feel for his loss. I acknowledge it, I'm honest about it with myself and with others. I don't shy away from talking about… Continue reading Fog of Grief
It was Baby Loss Awareness Week last week. I almost managed to avoid it altogether. Last year I wrote about what coping looks like, the year before I discussed our loss. Before that I looked at different ways we react to loss. But personally and in my real life, I don't engage in BLAW. I've… Continue reading No more babies
I don't really remember how I came across Rachel's blog at Musings of the Mind. Rachel is from Trinidad and Tobago, a far flung distant dream for me. But that distance represents, to me at least, the real value in blogging - bringing together people from all over the world who wouldn't otherwise meet. Rachel… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 19: Virginity
Molly is one of my absolute favourite bloggers. Her blog is Lovely Local Indie, with a focus on food, days out and places to stay in and around Derbyshire, UK. She's quite local to me so there's always something for me to store away for use one day. The boys are particularly excited to visit… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 18: Miscarriage (Three Years On)
I think I first met Pepper though the lovely Bill's weekly round ups over at A Silly Place. We've commented on each others blogs for ages and I think we have a lot in common, we certainly have many shared attitudes and values. I highly recommend her blog at Pepper Valentine for posts on travel… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 17: Friendship
Today's post is from Molly at Transatlantic Notes. Molly and I have been following each other for a while now. We have a real common sense of what's right and a shared desire to live a better life of equality and fairness. Molly's blog discusses issues to do with mental health, equality, politics and food,… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 16: Promise of a New Day
This post is from Jamie. I'm not sure how we "met", but we're been exchanging comments and tweets for a while now. I feel like we're on pretty much the same wavelength and his blog is an excellent source of giggles, book reviews and lovely poems. Plus he has an actual, real book! The Fathers,… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 15: Losing Touch
This post is from the very lovely Monty Vern. I first met Monty when I wrote about "A Surprise Called Nick" for our mutual friends at T.B.C. Monty created some fabulous and fun artwork for that series. Then when T.B.C ran another series about first times he blew me away when he captured absolutely the… Continue reading Lessons in Loss 14: Nothingness
Back in November 2020, I started a series of collaboration posts about how we cope with loss. I think about loss from time to time, as you probably know if you're a regular reader over here. I've discussed recovery from loss of a baby and other people's reactions. But, we don't only struggle or grieve… Continue reading Lessons in Loss: Restart
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