What with all this home learning and working and the recent spate of regular running, I’ve found that its really hard to fit in all the things.
Add to this all the lovely kind people who are sharing extra bits and bobs that might “help” keep us occupied and I’m finding that I’m ignoring lots of things just to prevent myself from becoming overwhelmed with it all.
This is kind of an appreciation of the kind people who have tried to help support us, and kind of a rant because we are already overloaded and we really don’t need any more activities.
My very lovely Dad sent me an email with a link to Online resources for families | Alumni (cam.ac.uk). I’m sure its marvellous but I haven’t even found the time to look through it.
An ex-colleague with older kids got nostalgic and sent me this Prep and Landing movie to watch with the kids. Nope only just got round to even Googling it.
My amazing mum tagged me on Facebook, suggesting I could sign the boys up to some music sessions run by the Benedetti Foundation. Sorry Mum, no way I can squeeze that in either.
School ran a couple of extra Zoom sessions with a magic show. Large boy had seen it before, small boy wasn’t interested. So, yeah, no, not doing that either.
Oh for fuck’s sake PTA, in what world do we need more noise, bouncing, jumping and shouting? A Cosmic Dance Party is not necessary in this house.
Yeah, I definitely have time for running itself. What I don’t have time for is absorbing the podcasts shared with me by a generous and supportive colleague. They’re at https://runwithus.podbean.com/ and I’m sure they’re very good but I run with music and there simply isn’t space in my days to sit and listen to something specific, much less concentrate and try to learn from it.
Why don’t you just….
These are the worst ones aren’t they? Sometimes someone asks me how things are and either they are just being polite and don’t really want to know, or they know fine well that the answer is unlikely to be very positive. They listen to a little moan about all the juggling and then try and be helpful. Usually, this begins “why don’t you just…” and might end with:
- organise fewer hours with work
- pick and choose which bits of school work to do
- just let the kids do what they want
- make sure you have time for self-care so you can decompress
- ask school to do things differently
- think how much worse it could be
None of those is actually practical or reasonable, for all sorts of reasons. Working fewer hours wouldn’t mean less work to do, we’re already skipping what school work we can, they do what they want most of the day and I am not asking the already-amazing-but-very-stressed teachers and TAs to adapt to just suit me. I do take time for self-care but that doesn’t change the reality of the situation. Lastly, I’m well aware of how lucky we are.
How about you?
What are you struggling to fit in? Tell me all about it and we can all feel put upon together.