I think about loss from time to time, as you probably know if you’re a regular reader over here. I’ve discussed recovery from loss of a baby and other people’s reactions. But, we don’t only struggle or grieve over the loss of a person – whether they were fully-formed or not. Sometimes loss is part of growing into the person we have become, sometimes it leaves us feeling like something’s fundamentally missing, sometimes we can’t remember what it was like before we lost whatever it was.
In this coming series of posts, I’ve asked some of my favourite blogging colleagues to write about a loss that they’ve experienced and how it affected them.
For myself, loss comes in all shapes and sizes. From a best friend who has moved on in her life and left me behind, to a favourite jumper shrunk in the wash by my mum 20 years ago, or from the 8 Monopoly cards that have disappeared somewhere in the house to baby boy3 who we didn’t get to keep. From each of those lost things, we readjust to accommodate the hole left behind and learn to allow life to keep flowing until we’re ready to take part in it again.
I’ll be posting discussions or experiences written by the bloggers who have become my friends. I started blogging while recovering from loss, and in doing so I’ve found some wonderful people. So thank you, lovely people in the ether, for helping me learn some lessons after my loss.
First up, Lovely Bill from A Silly Place with Lessons in Loss1: Y.
Number two, Tom from The Doubting Thomas with Lessons in Loss 2: Old Friendships.
Third up, Ingrid from Experiments in Fiction with Lessons in Loss 3: A Poem.
Fourth, T.B.C with Lessons in Loss 4: Rosary Beads.
The fifth post was from me, Lessons in Loss 5: Musical Interlude.
Smelly Socks and Garden Peas 
Lessons in loss, to lose, you have to have had, if you had something then it was worth it, even if you lost it. Just my feeling in life. We gain and lose daily.
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We do lose every day indeed, from the trivial to the fundamental to the things we don’t realise we have until they’re gone.
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Looking forward to reading more. Sometimes just talking about loss and the associated feelings from it can help. Thanks for starting this series.
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Thank you, I think generally openness will help us all cope when we grieve for whatever we’ve lost.
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Thank you for this series and I do look forward to it. I am currently re-grieving a loss of a BF that happened 22 years ago. It is interesting how grief comes and goes, and then can come back years later.
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This is a great idea. you are right: loss can take many forms & we can all deal with it in different ways.
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Thanks, the first post went up on Friday and the next one will follow in a couple of weeks.
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Awesome!! Sorry I just saw this post. I am working on getting my wordpress reader straightened out because I keep missing posts from some of my favorite bloggers 🙂 Looking forward to the next
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Thanks for sharing, this series sounds like a lovely idea to discuss our loss and the lessons we have learnt from them 🙂
Nic | Nic’s Adventures & Bakes
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Thanks, its going to be quite varied. I hope it works out.
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Really looking forward to this series and I agree, loss can manifest itself in so many different ways.
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The first post is up today. I need to link to it from here…
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Looking forward to this series. Loss does come in all shapes and sizes, and I believe it helps form us into a new and different person. Writing of different losses will be helpful to all of us in learning coping skills and positive outcomes from some losses. Great idea!
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Thanks I hope it’s going to be varied and balanced
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Looking forward to this Smell (if that’s the right term) and being able to feature. As you said, loss is experienced in so many different ways so nice to see some different perspectives.
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Thanks Tom, I’m just pleased that people were interested in contributing.
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I look forward to reading this series.
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So much love for you Smell. And a beautifully gentle way to bring people together xxx
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Thanks wonderful TBC x
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This’ll be a really valuable series of blog posts. Look forward to reading it. great idea.
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Thanks, I hope so
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This is so important to talk about and you’re right that loss can be experienced in so many ways. Looking forward to future posts x
http://www.dellalovesnutella.co.uk/
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Thank you, I hope they won’t be too downhearted
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This is such an important topic and one that you’ve handled and shared really well. Unfortunately, lots of us feel loss and it’s been something that has plighted many this year! I really hope this blog post helps those that need it!
Rosie
https://www.loverosiee.co.uk
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The series will be varied, acknowledging how many different things can make us feel grief on any scale. I hope it will all end with a positive tone though, loss and grief are painful but personally I have been able to take something from it and grow.
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I look forward to reading more. I also started blogging due to grieving. I am writing a post right now that has had me in tears typing but I always hope that my heartbreak will help others.
Such an important thing to talk about, we need to be more open about grief x
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Absolutely Claire. Hugs always x
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This is such an important topic and a worthwhile endeavour – it’s important to know that you are not alone, even in times of loss 🙏
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Absolutely, thank you lovely x
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What an important topic. I’m looking forward to reading and thinking about my own losses.
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Thank you
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