I came across this post on Facebook. If you’ve thought, however fleetingly, how nice it must be to have our kids in the house all the time, how special it is, how it’s a step back in time to before so many families had two working parents, then please read it. If you’re a parent dealing with home learning right now, also please read it.
Wow! What an amazingly strong parent she is. She’s being pulled in 10 different directions, she’s probably working harder than she ever has (who cares whether that’s in the home or for a formalised “job”). She’s being honest about that and crying out in pain. That is the reality of home learning.
I’m only dealing with two kids, no babies. They’re very close most of the time and really good at occupying themselves together. Nevertheless, I have moments just like hers. When I’m trying to work but large boy needs help with literacy and small boy has decided he can’t wipe him bum anymore, but we need to be quiet because himself is in a call. Sometimes it feels like my brain is being torn apart, trying to focus on so many things all at once. Tempers fray and voices are raised every day.
My company is collecting home working experiences. I haven’t submitted mine because I could so easily show a snapshot, rose-tinted view of one of the good moments – small boy doing phonics at my computer for example. But that would be dishonest. I wouldn’t want my colleagues in the same position as me to think I’m finding home learning and working easy and thus feel bad themselves.
The truth is closer to what is described in this Facebook post. Mayhem, interruptions, trying to do three things at once, kids asking to play on their screens half way through a meeting, remembering at lunchtime I forgot to give them juice and a snack midmorning because I was absorbed with a work task.
Maybe I should write that? But maybe if I did, my management would be horrified and decide I’m not really working my hours.
We’re all finding this so hard, in different ways. We’re all failing at little things. But we’re also hugely successful, doing our best, keeping everybody fed and safe, and being honest about how challenging this is.
The reception teacher, when I picked up next week’s work pack yesterday, asked me how it’s going. I gave her the stock response: “well it’s really hard but we’re doing our best”. It sounds a bit bland and general. But actually, its completely true. It is really hard and we are all doing our best. That’s the reality and we should be proud of it.
How are you finding home learning? Are you working too? I hope you’re doing ok. Sometimes I’m ok, sometimes I’m not. Xx